Over the past few weeks in our series, Happily Ever After, we have talked about marriage and the myth we believed that marriage was created to complete us and make us whole. Hopefully, as we have explored this more fully, we now realize that marriage wasn’t created to complete us but to complement us. Only Jesus has and can make us whole! However, it was created for us to have partners and intimate companions to share our lives with as we grow and mature in our intimacy with Christ. Marriage was never created to substitute for getting our most intimate needs met, Jesus Christ our Beloved was. With this in mind, let’s take a look at how we complement each other.
I have discovered over the years the belief that opposites attract is really true. I read an article on Webmd.com which stated, “We are attracted to people unlike us who will help us heal and grow. We look for complements not someone identical to us.” A person who complements us enhances, challenges, and matures us if we allow them too.
As iron sharpens iron, so one man sharpens [and influences] another [through discussion]. Proverbs 27:17 (Amplified Bible)
If opposites attract for the wonderful purpose of complementing each other and helping each other grow, why do we think, feel or say these words:
- I wish he/she was more organized.
- I wish he/she wasn’t so emotional.
- I wish he/she wasn’t so hardnosed about things.
- I wish he/she could be more sensitive.
- I wish he/she wouldn’t take forever to make a decision.
- I wish he/she would be on time; they are always late.
- I wish he/she would be more outgoing like me.
- I wish he/she wasn’t so stingy or frugal.
- I wish he/she wouldn’t spend so much money on gifts for everyone.
- I wish he/she would think before they speak.
I think I found the answer to our wishes; are you ready to explore with me the why?
Ephesians 2:10 (Amplified Bible)
For we are His (Our Father’s) workmanship, handiwork, creation, masterpiece [His own masterwork, a work of art], created in Christ Jesus [reborn from above—spiritually transformed, renewed, ready to be used] for good works, which God prepared [for us] beforehand [taking paths which He set], so that we would walk in them [living the good life which He prearranged and made ready for us].
Isaiah 64: 8 (Amplified Bible)
Yet, O Lord, You are our Father; we are the clay, and You are our Potter, and we all are the work of Your hand.
Because we are His, we were created and designed with unique personalities to fulfill His purposes in the earth and to complement each other.
There are some very fun assessments you can take to really understand your personality and that of others. One I used in counseling over the years was the Myers-Briggs. It was a great way to help people stop comparing themselves with each other or wishing the other person in their relationship would be more like them. Personalitypage.com has a FREE assessment you can take and has some great information very similar to the Myers-Briggs assessment which contains over 200 questions and cost around $100-$200 to take and be interpreted by a professional. I love it because it can help you understand, the why. Let me give you a sneak preview of what you will discover about yourself. The web page has an assessment and when you get your four-letter code, take a look at: Why Opposites Attract in Relationships, your strengths and weaknesses, compatible career fields, and so much more.
We contain all 8 personality types below but we have naturally developed one side more than the other. As we mature, we seek to develop the other side in order to bring balance into our lives. Some of us create strong relationships with our opposites to establish congruence and balance. Jesus fulfills and completes the other sides of us.
Opposites attract for beautiful reasons, to complement, add congruence, and to bring balance into our lives. Jesus Christ is our LIFE! When we allow Him to live His beautiful and amazing life through us, He brings both sides of our personality into balance so we never lack in being who He created us to be. So, no more wishing but being and allowing others to be who our Father created them to be.
Enjoy personalitypage.com and discover a wealth of knowledge about you and others.