{"id":799,"date":"2018-01-20T17:03:57","date_gmt":"2018-01-20T17:03:57","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.hispreciousgift.com\/wordpress\/?p=799"},"modified":"2018-01-20T17:03:57","modified_gmt":"2018-01-20T17:03:57","slug":"letting-go-of-our-his-children-part-2-enabling","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/hispreciousgift.com\/wordpress\/letting-go-of-our-his-children-part-2-enabling\/","title":{"rendered":"LETTING GO OF OUR (HIS) CHILDREN Part 2 ‘Enabling’"},"content":{"rendered":"

LETTING GO OF OUR (HIS) CHILDREN\u00a0<\/strong>Part 2<\/strong> \u2018Enabling versus Helping\u2019<\/em><\/p>\n

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\u201cLetting Go\u201d means to entrust into the hands of the Lord, to surrender control of, to relinquish power over, and to trust the Lord with.<\/em><\/p>\n

Only in Letting Go will our minds, emotions, wills, find rest and cease to struggle<\/u>.<\/em><\/p>\n

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In our last three blogs, we have discussed the importance of \u201cLetting Go\u201d <\/em>of others in order to experience peace, rest, and grace for our souls. We understand, it isn\u2019t easy because we were trying to get our needs met through these relationships, but our Lord desires to fill ALL of our NEEDS and LONGINGS within our souls, which others can\u2019t and won\u2019t. Through reading these blogs, we have also learned what it means to let go<\/em>, the process of letting go<\/em>, and what it looks like when we let go<\/em>. In letting go<\/em> of our children (His children), we discussed how even in our \u2018Good Intentions\u2019<\/em> to help our children in the flesh<\/em>, we can do more damage than good. This brings us to another challenge we struggle with, that is to know when we are enabling <\/em>our children or when we are really helping<\/em> them.<\/p>\n

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Firstly, let\u2019s look at what it means to enable<\/em>. This definition came from a parent who learned this lesson the hard way. She enabled her son over and over again until he couldn\u2019t make his own decisions without her. So he drank and drugged his life away, eventually ending up in prison without her.<\/p>\n

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Enable<\/em> means, to do for another person what they are capable of doing for themselves\u2026 but I won\u2019t teach them.<\/em> To enable a person says in essence\u2026<\/p>\n

\u201cYou are not capable or smart enough to make this decision, figure out the right answer, do this task correctly without my input, so you need me<\/u> to do it for you or tell you what to do.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n

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In other words, I am rejecting you and your abilities because you aren\u2019t as capable as I am.<\/strong> Parents always think if I do it for them, or tell them what to do instead of teaching them research skills to find their own answers, it will make life easy for them. True, but how many children are paralyzed when their parents aren\u2019t around to do it for them or think for them? I have spoken to countless children and adults who state, \u201cMy mother or my father won\u2019t let me or they did it for me, so I never learned how to do it for myself.\u201d<\/em> Or, \u201cI\u2019m not sure what to do, my parents always made the best <\/u>decisions for me.\u201d<\/em> Grown men and women are crippled because of being enabled<\/em>. Enabling <\/em>really is not about the child<\/em>;<\/strong> it is really about the parent because:<\/p>\n