{"id":449,"date":"2017-05-06T10:22:47","date_gmt":"2017-05-06T10:22:47","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.hispreciousgift.com\/wordpress\/?p=449"},"modified":"2017-05-06T10:22:47","modified_gmt":"2017-05-06T10:22:47","slug":"jesus-our-intimate-friend-and-bridegroom","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/hispreciousgift.com\/wordpress\/jesus-our-intimate-friend-and-bridegroom\/","title":{"rendered":"JESUS OUR INTIMATE FRIEND AND BRIDEGROOM"},"content":{"rendered":"<p style=\"text-align: center;\"><strong>JESUS OUR INTIMATE FRIEND AND BRIDEGROOM<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>You may have read this email I posted on my Facebook page last week, however, many of you didn\u2019t. Therefore, I felt the need to post it again.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone size-medium wp-image-458 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/www.hispreciousgift.com\/wordpress\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/05\/Alone-300x252.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"300\" height=\"252\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Dear Tresca,<\/p>\n<p>I got your email address from a friend of mine who encouraged me to write to you to ask for advice. I know you are going away to a women\u2019s retreat this weekend and many of my sisters in Christ will be there; please ask for their advice as well. I know you\u2019d prefer that I come to the office in person but I am traveling at this time on business and was alone and very sad tonight and thought an email would help relieve my pain. I have found that by writing my thoughts and feelings always help. Thank you so much for your kindness to even consider reading this email and your response is greatly appreciated.<\/p>\n<p>You see, I have been married for 13 years. We have two beautiful children and I am so blessed by them, but, I have become very lonely. I sometimes feel as if I am only there to meet my wife\u2019s needs and not mine. I am not complaining because my needs are not being met. I do not ask for much, just someone to talk to, to laugh with, to listen to my heart, thoughts, and ideas. That\u2019s what I want. I know, I am just in her life <em>for her<\/em> <em>satisfaction.<br \/>\n<\/em><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>She only talks to me when she wants something.<\/li>\n<li>When she is in distress, I come to her aid.<\/li>\n<li>When she is not happy she comes and cries on my shoulder.<\/li>\n<li>When she is angry, she vents to me and takes it out on me.<\/li>\n<li>When she asks for solutions to her problems, I offer them, then does what she wants to do.<\/li>\n<li>When she wants me to take care of the children, I do so with gladness.<\/li>\n<li>When she is sick, I take care of her. I stop my activities including work to care for her.<\/li>\n<li>When she wants to be with her family or friends, she never asks me whether I want to go or not.<\/li>\n<li>When I asked\u00a0her how was her day to connect with her? She says \u201cfine,\u201d that\u2019s it.<\/li>\n<li>When I reach out to hold her and want to spend time with her, she ignores me.<\/li>\n<li>When I awakened her to be with me in the quietness of the early morning to talk to me, she pushes me away and says \u201cGo back to sleep! We can talk in the morning!\u201d But she never does.<\/li>\n<li>When I say let\u2019s pray together or read the Word together she says \u201cI am too exhausted\u201d then she does things with the children faithfully, watch her favorite movies on television, or go to the movies. I go with her, just to be near her, even though I do not enjoy the movies she watches.<\/li>\n<li>When she is lonely, anxious, or bored, she goes shopping and buys things she does not need or food she knows is not good for her, only to comfort her. She does not listen to my wisdom or guidance, so I stopped offering it to her.<\/li>\n<li>When I want to go out for dinner or lunch to be alone without the kids, she responds, \u201cI am too busy at work or I have this thing to do or that thing to do.\u201d I am always on the \u2018back burner.\u2019<\/li>\n<li>When I put my arms around her, she moves away or chooses to do things with the children instead of with me.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>Yes, I have tried talking to her. I have stopped her to tell her that I am so sad and that I miss her. I have sent emails, text messages, before we go to bed at night, or when we wake up in the morning. I have stopped her to say, \u201cMy love, I miss you and I do not like feeling this distance between us, can we talk?\u201d It is always the same thing, \u201cNo, not tonight, I am too tired or no response at all.\u201d Tresca, I love her so much. I choose to love her no matter how she treats me. I will never stop loving her, but as her best friend and husband, how do I reconnect with her and share the love that is ours to enjoy?<\/p>\n<p>A Lonely Friend and Husband,<\/p>\n<p><strong>JESUS<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Jesus is the lover of our souls. Our souls, whether in a male body or in a female body, Jesus died to be with us, to have intimacy with us, to spend time with us, and to enjoy life together with us. But, we ignore His call or His reaching out to us. Jesus is not a \u2018religion\u2019 <strong>He is a person<\/strong>! He is never impressed with our church attendance, activities, tithes, giving, or sacrifices. <strong>What He desires most, is&#8230; INTIMACY WITH THE ONE HE CREATED\u2026HIS BELOVEDS<\/strong>.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone wp-image-453 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/www.hispreciousgift.com\/wordpress\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/05\/Deep-Places-for-Jesus-300x192.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"322\" height=\"206\" srcset=\"https:\/\/hispreciousgift.com\/wordpress\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/05\/Deep-Places-for-Jesus-300x192.jpg 300w, https:\/\/hispreciousgift.com\/wordpress\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/05\/Deep-Places-for-Jesus-423x270.jpg 423w, https:\/\/hispreciousgift.com\/wordpress\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/05\/Deep-Places-for-Jesus.jpg 744w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 322px) 100vw, 322px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>The book of Joel 2:13 paraphrase states <strong>\u201cI want your heart, not your garments (outward activities or external things).&#8221; LOVE ME WITH ALL OF YOUR HEART, SOUL, AND MIND.\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><strong>Prayer<\/strong>: Jesus, I know you said, that You will never leave me nor forsake me, I am so sorry that I so often do that to you. Draw me Jesus to your heart and create a hunger in my heart for you so I will not ever be tempted to put you on the &#8216;back burner&#8217; of my life ever again. 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